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some people don't understand my way of thinking, its a bit complicated, but i fuel off of defence mechanisms. i didn't eve know i did or knew what they were until i started taking Psychology. Being in that class has helped me learn alot about myself and just people in general and im begginning to figure out a little better what is going on in my head.
some examples if you dont know what they are:
Rationalization - Subconscious justifications, excuses or reasonings given to make a behavior seem logical -- "A student fails the final he didn't study for and says... "I couldn't have passed it anyway - that teacher has it in for me."
Rationalization is included at the beginning of any list of defense mechanisms because it's so frequently recognized as "being defensive".
Projection - Attempts to banish or "disown" unwanted and disliked thoughts, behaviors, and even "parts of self" by projecting or attributing them to someone else.
May be as simple as blaming someone else - "He should have let me off on that ticket but that cop was trying to fill his monthly quota."
Or as complex as seeing and experiencing a repressed or "disowned" part of self in another person - e.g., an excessively passive person marries an excessively angry person - both experience their disowned "part" in the other.
Introjection - The opposite of projection - subconsciously "takes in" to self an imprint (or recording) of another person including all their attitudes, messages, prejudices, expressions, even the sound of their voice, etc.
This is healthy if the imprinted material is helpful advice, warnings, or other lessons from parents and respected others -- unhealthy if shaming messages from parents, hatred, or aggression is turned inward on self.
Identification - An ability available very early in life that children use to attach themselves to certain qualities, emotions, and attitudes of someone else...especially during the modeling period between eight and thirteen.
This helps the child further develop the Adult Ego State and the Parent Ego State.
Isolation - Separation of memory from emotion...can remember and talk about the trauma but feels no emotion -- the Person talks about the incident as if it is someone else's story.
Accomplished by talking Third Perceptual Position.
Sublimation - Redirection of impulses into socially acceptable activities -- normal and healthy, such as when the sexual impulses of adolescence is channeled into sports and competition.
Displacement - No list of defense mechanisms would be complete without displacement. This defense reduces anxiety or pressure by transferring feelings toward one person to another -- commonly known as "dumping on" someone...e.g., man is mad his boss and kicks the cat when he gets home, or blows up and yells at his family.
Repression - Painful, frightening, or threatening emotions, memories, impulses or drives that are subconsciously pushed or "stuffed" deep inside.
It takes a lot of energy to keep material "stuffed"...energy that could be used for more productive living. Healthy if the person does not have the psychological resources available to deal with it.
Suppression - Painful, frightening, or threatening emotions, memories, impulses or drives that are consciously pushed or "stuffed" inside.
It takes a lot of energy to keep material "stuffed"...energy that could be used for more productive living.
Conversion - Mental conflict converted to a physical symptom... e.g., a soldier on being deployed into battle is conflicted about his desire to serve his country but believes it is wrong to kill for any reason develops paralysis, blindness, or deafness with no medical cause.
Regression - Giving up current level of development and going back to a prior level... and older child under stress begins wetting the bed or sucking a thumb after a long period without that behavior.
In extreme cases of PTSD an adult could regress into a child-like ego-state and curl up in a fetal position on the floor unable to communicate.
Reaction Formation - Over-compensation for fear of the opposite.
Two conflicting parts of self -- one is strengthened while the other is repressed...e.g., An overly nice and agreeable person may have a lot of repressed hostility and rage of which they are completely unaware on a conscious level.
Simple Denial - Unpleasant facts, emotions, or events are treated as if they are not real or don't exist. -- a person told that their spouse was killed in a motor vehicle accident acts as if he/ or she is still alive.
(Not consciously lying)
Fantasy - Retreating into a dream world of times past... Can be unhealthy if it happens when action is required instead. Healthy when used to go back and finish unfinished business of the past...or simply for sentiment & nostalgia such exploring high school yearbook or family album.
Rationalization is included at the beginning of any list of defense mechanisms because it's so frequently recognized as "being defensive".
Projection - Attempts to banish or "disown" unwanted and disliked thoughts, behaviors, and even "parts of self" by projecting or attributing them to someone else.
May be as simple as blaming someone else - "He should have let me off on that ticket but that cop was trying to fill his monthly quota."
Or as complex as seeing and experiencing a repressed or "disowned" part of self in another person - e.g., an excessively passive person marries an excessively angry person - both experience their disowned "part" in the other.
Introjection - The opposite of projection - subconsciously "takes in" to self an imprint (or recording) of another person including all their attitudes, messages, prejudices, expressions, even the sound of their voice, etc.
This is healthy if the imprinted material is helpful advice, warnings, or other lessons from parents and respected others -- unhealthy if shaming messages from parents, hatred, or aggression is turned inward on self.
Identification - An ability available very early in life that children use to attach themselves to certain qualities, emotions, and attitudes of someone else...especially during the modeling period between eight and thirteen.
This helps the child further develop the Adult Ego State and the Parent Ego State.
Isolation - Separation of memory from emotion...can remember and talk about the trauma but feels no emotion -- the Person talks about the incident as if it is someone else's story.
Accomplished by talking Third Perceptual Position.
Sublimation - Redirection of impulses into socially acceptable activities -- normal and healthy, such as when the sexual impulses of adolescence is channeled into sports and competition.
Displacement - No list of defense mechanisms would be complete without displacement. This defense reduces anxiety or pressure by transferring feelings toward one person to another -- commonly known as "dumping on" someone...e.g., man is mad his boss and kicks the cat when he gets home, or blows up and yells at his family.
Repression - Painful, frightening, or threatening emotions, memories, impulses or drives that are subconsciously pushed or "stuffed" deep inside.
It takes a lot of energy to keep material "stuffed"...energy that could be used for more productive living. Healthy if the person does not have the psychological resources available to deal with it.
Suppression - Painful, frightening, or threatening emotions, memories, impulses or drives that are consciously pushed or "stuffed" inside.
It takes a lot of energy to keep material "stuffed"...energy that could be used for more productive living.
Conversion - Mental conflict converted to a physical symptom... e.g., a soldier on being deployed into battle is conflicted about his desire to serve his country but believes it is wrong to kill for any reason develops paralysis, blindness, or deafness with no medical cause.
Regression - Giving up current level of development and going back to a prior level... and older child under stress begins wetting the bed or sucking a thumb after a long period without that behavior.
In extreme cases of PTSD an adult could regress into a child-like ego-state and curl up in a fetal position on the floor unable to communicate.
Reaction Formation - Over-compensation for fear of the opposite.
Two conflicting parts of self -- one is strengthened while the other is repressed...e.g., An overly nice and agreeable person may have a lot of repressed hostility and rage of which they are completely unaware on a conscious level.
Simple Denial - Unpleasant facts, emotions, or events are treated as if they are not real or don't exist. -- a person told that their spouse was killed in a motor vehicle accident acts as if he/ or she is still alive.
(Not consciously lying)
Fantasy - Retreating into a dream world of times past... Can be unhealthy if it happens when action is required instead. Healthy when used to go back and finish unfinished business of the past...or simply for sentiment & nostalgia such exploring high school yearbook or family album.
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these are the ones i use the most.
Introjection - The opposite of projection - subconsciously "takes in" to self an imprint (or recording) of another person including all their attitudes, messages, prejudices, expressions, even the sound of their voice, etc.
This is healthy if the imprinted material is helpful advice, warnings, or other lessons from parents and respected others -- unhealthy if shaming messages from parents, hatred, or aggression is turned inward on self.
that is highlighted because thats the way i think
Repression - Painful, frightening, or threatening emotions, memories, impulses or drives that are subconsciously pushed or "stuffed" deep inside.
that is what i meant, almost the same thing as above. introjection and repression have something to do with eachother, and because of my repression is why i use introjection. i have those emotions, memories, impulses and drives always and all the time but i dont know most of the time until after it happens and then i realize it...most of my repression is of memories. i remember almost each and every time anyone has been unpleasant towards me, although i wish i didnt.
Suppression - Painful, frightening, or threatening emotions, memories, impulses or drives that are consciously pushed or "stuffed" inside.
this i use in a different way. this is why i don't get mad: i suppress my anger, or at least i try hard to. this would tie into the way i use this next defence mechanism.
Displacement -This defense reduces anxiety or pressure by transferring feelings toward one person to another.
i use displacement but more on my emotions and not people. i displace my anger into sadness and then use this next mechanism.
Rationalization - Subconscious justifications, excuses or reasonings given to make a behavior seem logical.
the way i use rationalization is that when someone does harm to me, i say that what they did is okay even when it really isnt. i'll defend what they did and say why it was okay to do it, just to avoid conflict. i've been told its a horrible way to cope, but i cant stop. i've been doing it far too long. i'll say that i'll get used to it and then condition myself to be alright with whatever the pain is.
Isolation - Separation of memory from emotion...can remember and talk about the trauma but feels no emotion -- the Person talks about the incident as if it is someone else's story.
Accomplished by talking Third Perceptual Position.
i use this, but not really as a defence mechanism...i more use it in a flipped way and subconsciously in my writing. when i write a story, it is usually based on a dream or series of dreams. but after i write it, whatever happens in the story happens in my real life. and its like deja vu but isolation at the same time, you know what i mean?
alot of people tell me they don't understand me
and there's many reasons why they probably never will fully,
but this would help someone understand a part of the way i think
and maybe these defence mechanisms can help you understand your ownself as well
if this post helped you at all please feel free to leave a comment and tell me how
and to you: i am still sorry..those words were hurtful and i didn't mean it...i never say those words and i cant forgive myself for saying them to you..but if i cant forgive me then maybe you can, i hope, i wish, and i want. i apologize..
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didn't think i could drink that much?
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